yeah youtube is very fine. I'm sorry that it makes more work for you but the law is the law.
thank you for the EQ, I'll try that tomorrow seriously(it's 1.30AM for me right now ^_^)
the loudness has an impact for sure. I imagine it would work better at louder volumes as the FM loudness curve flattens out a little, but loud test tones, that's not a lot of fun.
still I do not feel like equal loudness is the same as perceived neutral. and you're making people do equal loudness(and then correct it with actual music). that's why I said it's good for spikes, but not to get overall neutral sound IMO. I doubt anything but a neutral reference from good speakers can let people achieve neutral on headphones. but again I'm good with your method, it will improve some things on most headphones, and let people not too far off of neutral, so they can fine tune by a few dbs later on with music. or maybe apply a default fletcher munson compensation? we all have our own + the loudness stuff, but the general direction would still be good I guess.
when I EQ my music, the ultimate judge is.... November rain
on this video starting at around 7mn, when my EQ is right, 1/ the guitars on both sides feel balanced, and 2/ the third one in center must dominate clearly the other 2, and 3/not be overwhelmed by the percussion. then if the voices are good it's even better, but if I get it right with the guitars+percussion, I know music will sound nice. ^_^
I wish my reference song was the Al Jarreau version of blue rondo a la turk, or some fancy Pink Floyd stuff, or the usual Bach organ stuff. but nope, the one song that does it for me is November rain